Eight Ways to Prevent Complete Devastation

Eight Ways to Prevent Complete Devastation
by Jennifer LB Leese

It only takes one tragedy to send you spiraling on an emotional journey that may change you life forever.
For many it will be the beginning of the end, for others, it will be a way to alter your life's path. Whatever experience happens that leaves you feeling scared, hopeless, or at a loss...remember you are not alone.
For a while you will feel unable to see from the half-full perspective, or be yourself again. I'd like to give you some tips on how to stop your emotional spiraling:
1) Listen to your Heart. Do not make immediate or drastic changes to your current arrangement or to your future. Remember, you will need a little more time to make such detailed decisions.
2) Talk with Others. Not everyone will be able to be there for you on such a personal journey, but even if you only have that one special person. Talk. They will listen. You will need them to sit with you, hold your hand, or just be with you in silence.
3) Relax and Breathe. Do not panic. Of course, this sounds easy, but it is important to try. Afterwards, you may be more capable to cope with the decision-making process. Don't rush into anything. Take your time. Anger destroys your ability to think clearly - there's always plenty of time - release the anger later. You must now find a way to deal with what is happening.
4) Get Support. This goes along with "Talk with Others" except you, depending on your circumstance, may need to find a support group. Now with the Internet so accessible to so many individuals, you don't have to leave the privacy of your own home to find the support you need.
5) Find Professional Help. If after talking with others and searching for and participating in a support group, you may need to seek professional help. Start by calling your doctor. They will want to schedule a discussion visit to better evaluate your circumstance so they may get you the help you need right away. If your situation does not call for a doctor visit, call a lawyer or therapist. This may seem extremely difficult at first, but just pick up the phone and dial the number. You'll feel better once you do. It will help you in the future and for some it helps take the load off for a while.
6) Write it Down. Complete devastation doesn't take long. Sit with a journal and get it all out. Even if you destroy it later, this may help more than you think. You can also write down what you'd like to see happen and/or what needs to be done to get the ball rolling.
7) Ask Yourself. Your self-image is being threatened. Asking the right questions will help. Most importantly, if the tragedy wasn't something you were directly or indirectly part of, you've got to reassure yourself that the event had nothing to do with you. Tragic circumstances occur all the time and to all of us at one point in our lives. Getting through it and getting yourself back on track is number one.
8) Keep Active and Social. The first things we do is to shut ourselves out from our everyday routines - including dinner with family and friends. This will not help. Actually, going out with your friends and family and sticking to your regular routine can actually be helpful as they are a distraction.
Everyone is different. One's tragedy may not be as tragic to another. And remember, it takes time to heal. Some are faster than others, but one day you will wake and find that your tragedy isn't the first thing that pops into your head.

Sources: MentalHelp.net, Wikipedia.org, Mental-Health-Matters.com.