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The Flylady: Not My Fortune Cookie

The Flylady
Not My Fortune Cookie

We went to our favorite Chinese Restaurant, Twin Dragons for dinner tonight. Robert and I always look forward to our fortune cookies! When I opened mine I wanted a recall! This could not have been my fortune cookie! It said, "You have a yearning for perfection!" This could not be me! I told Robert he had my fortune. But mine did not fit him either.
I got to thinking about this fortune and I finally realized that I do have a yearning for perfection! It happens every day and I have to fight that yearning because it is no different from any craving. My food drug of choice of Marconi and Cheese; I have fought this desire for many years.
My yearning for perfection started as a child. I was taught from an early age that if you can't do it right; don't do it at all! I was forced to redo jobs till they passed inspection. Didn't you grow up with that too? I think we all did! That perfectionism is part of the reason that procrastination has reigned strongly in my life and the lives of my members.
Here is what happens when it comes to our yearning for perfection. We see a job that needs to be done then we look at the clock. When we can't find several hours to work on a job that's when we put it off and do nothing. Then there is another side to our yearning for perfection. We feed it by hyper-focusing. We work ourselves into the ground. You know how we crash and burn! We don't have to live this way.
Many years ago I recognized my yearning for perfection and my obsessive personality. I was a stained glass artist. I would spend twenty hours a day working on a window. After three weeks of pushing myself toward perfection; I would be sick. The window would be finished and be beautiful but I was in the bed for two weeks afterwards. I realized that I threw myself into my work because of my need to be perfect. I was also not being kind to myself. After looking hard at this yearning for perfection I decided that I was never going to be perfect and starting making a mistake in each window. It became my signature piece.
This was a big step for me! I started pacing myself and being kind to me for the first time ever! My first step was recognizing my yearning for perfection and putting a stop to it. That was seven years before I became FlyLady. I never dreamed that my perfectionism was the reason I was living in clutter and CHAOS.
The simple act of Finally Loving Yourself will eliminate your yearning for perfection! For when you love yourself, you will not be mean to you. We have lived our lives thinking that if we were not perfect that we were not worthy of being loved! You are worth loving!
I want your yearning for perfection to be replaced by a desire for peace in your life. This peace begins with you! Are you ready to FLY!

For more help getting rid of your CHAOS; check out her website and join her free life coaching at , listen to her channel show or read her books, Sink Reflections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2008 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.

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